I'm too competitive (and jealous), how can I stop?

I know a guy who is a bit like you, it's an obsession, what's happening is you can't see what your good at this increasing your lack of confidence this increases your obsession which is taking away your efforts and abilities at actualy being good at other things, if you were to stop focusing your energy on competing, you will eventualy realise your the best at something, and most likely someone will be jelous of for it, but the fact is, untill you deal with your pride and humble yourself and stop trying to satisfy your ego (no offense) you'll be happyer, and being good at being happy is something everyone will be jelous of